Conflict # 21 – Unrealistic Expectations

“Women marry men, expecting that they will change. Men marry women, hoping they won’t.” – Author unknown From early childhood we learn to think about what’s next; the next moment, the next day, week, year. We develop expectations…. Read More

Conflict # 20 – The Internal Struggle

Two people, Jason and Justin, each with opposite life situations. Jason hates his job. He is struggling financially. His home life is in tatters. Justin has a passion for his profession, enjoys a happy relationship and loves his… Read More

Conflict # 19 – Lying

In putting together these posts on conflict, I skipped the obvious comments, assuming they go without saying … No yelling or screaming, no property destruction, no physical violence, no threats, no running away, no foul language, no name-calling… Read More

Conflict # 18 – Differing Styles

Jack and Jill are having a hard time resolving a conflict. Not only that, but they also disagree about how and when to address it. Jill thinks quickly. She wants to address the issue and move on. But… Read More

Conflict # 17 – The Blame Game

If you’re reading this, I assume you’re interested in improving your way of handing conflicts. I appreciate that, and am confident this article will help you. Please don’t try to apply this information at the workplace or with… Read More

Conflict # 16 – Hang in There!

If you know how a pressure cooker works, you know it contains a valve on the lid that allows steam to escape slowly. Without the release valve, the pot would explode. Keep that image in mind, please. Most… Read More

Conflict # 15 – Stay Focused

“We talk and talk, and don’t get anywhere. We always end up where we started. It’s so frustrating!” Has this ever happened in your relationship? For couples and families who experience a lot of conflict, it’s a common… Read More

Conflict #14 – Power and Status

If you’ve watched “A Christmas Story”, the movie about Ralphie’s dream of owning a wondrous air rifle, remember the scene in which Ralphie beats up the bully, Farkas. Hold that thought for a minute. Even solid relationships experience… Read More

Conflict #13 – Validation

Years ago I worked with a young married couple, “Jack and Jill”, who had conflict with Jack’s father, “Bill”. Bill was a successful businessman. Bill and his wife, “Betty”, had been married for thirty-five years. Jack and Jill… Read More

Conflict #12 – Assertive or Aggressive?

One of my clients is a lovely lady, thoughtful and smart, and well past retirement age. Even in this season of her life, she is willing to improve herself. She says that one of her problems is, “I… Read More