GOALS

When I see clients in their first sessions, I ask them for a goal statement. Typically people will say they want to feel better, get rid of a bad habit, stop procrastinating, get their marriage back, that sort… Read More

Optimism

Optimism “Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence.” – Helen Keller It has been said, contrasting the mind-sets of optimism and pessimism, that pessimists are more often right about… Read More

Are Parents to Blame?

Are Parents to Blame? If you are a mom or a dad, have you ever wondered whether you have any influence over your children? Chances are that thought has, indeed, crossed your mind, especially if your child has… Read More

Unhealthy Relationships

Unhealthy Relationships Many of us have experienced the emotional pain of an unhealthy relationship. Maybe we knew something was wrong, but couldn’t quite explain why. The following is adapted from a questionnaire called “Toxic Relationships”, to which I’ve… Read More

Stress and the Need for Control

You’ve probably heard the saying – was it uttered by Ben Franklin or by Churchill? –   that there are only two sure things in this life: death and taxes. However, could we add stress to that list,… Read More

Happiness

“All I ask is the chance to prove that money can’t make me happy.” – Spike Milligan, British comedian Millions of People Are Unhappy Nearly everyone would agree that there’s plenty of bad news these days. Insecurities abound… Read More

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Forgiving

Years ago in the feature film “A Bronx Tale”, directed by and starring Robert DeNiro, a teenage boy, the son of DeNiro’s character, is being mentored by the local mob boss, Sonny. At one point the boy sees… Read More

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Quitting Smoking

Tales from the Smoke Zone One of my clients, who came to me wanting to quit smoking, recently used an interesting phrase to describe herself: “I love myself as a non-smoker”. That got me thinking. This lady, now… Read More