Don’t Be a Jerk!

The knee-jerk reaction: an uncontrolled, automatic physical response to a stimulus. This term is also used for automatic, uncontrolled speech and behavior. Obviously, the actual knee-jerk is truly uncontrollable. However, in the area of speech and behavior, that… Read More


He just does not get it. Dylan and his wife, Starla May, are living their lives, raising the kids, working, and mainly on auto-pilot. He’s doing fine, as far as he is concerned. He works hard, long hours… Read More


In my book, YOU CAN WORK IT OUT! – Skills and Wisdom for Conflict Resolution in Relationships, specific proven-effective skills are provided that can help anyone communicate effectively and settle disagreements. Having taught these skills for nearly twenty… Read More

Action Creates Mood

“What are you in the mood for? Chinese food? Pizza? Mac and cheese?” Everybody, at least in our culture, has had this experience. In ordinary everyday situations, we let our mood – which has to do with emotions… Read More

Bad Advice

Many years ago a friend of mine who lived in San Francisco, California was going through a tough time. He was pursuing a career in the arts, against his parents’ wishes. He was approaching the age of thirty,… Read More

Why We Suffer

You know what they say about life. There are two things we can be sure of: death and taxes. However, suffering seems to be an inevitable part of the whole experience also. But, let us not despair. Talking… Read More


It has been talked about as long as people have had the power of thought and speech. An ideal state of affairs between individuals and groups, and between humankind and our environment. As much as it has been… Read More


All people have their own ways of handling emotions. Some people deny their feelings or stuff them down, while others wear them openly. Some people seem by nature unemotional, whereas others are live wires. Some view emotional people… Read More

Speak with Care

It goes without saying that most people want to be understood. If you are among them, it makes sense that you would take responsibility for communicating your thoughts, opinions and feelings clearly and accurately. In a recent couples… Read More

Opportunity Beckons

“Let brotherly love continue. Do not neglect to show hospitality to strangers—for in doing so, some have entertained angels without knowing it.” – Hebrews 13: 1-2  How would your life be different if you viewed each moment as… Read More