Talk to Me!

Observing the social behavior of both sexes, you can see the truth of the following statement: barring the rare exception, men bond with others by doing, whereas women bond with others by talking. A common problem in the… Read More

Crisis & Recovery

While recovery is most commonly thought of in connection with addictions, a non-addict with a troubled past may also need to experience recovery. Some examples include survivors of abuse, neglect, domestic violence and criminal victimization, among a host… Read More


We live in turbulent times. Across virtually every culture and nation, people and groups who hold opposing views, running from one extreme to the other, have created division and conflict. In the United States alone, the polarization of… Read More

Problems, Problems

How do personal problems arise, how are they maintained and what does it take to solve them? In the helping professions theories abound regarding all three of these questions. In this article we look at how relationship problems… Read More

The Big Picture

It has been said that poor people plan their lives one day at a time, while rich people plan in terms of decades. One very common thread that appears to run through people’s problems is that life stressors… Read More

Who’s Using Whom?

“The world is made up of givers and takers. The takers may eat better. But the givers sleep better.” Have you ever felt that you were being used? Has your boss used you in order to advance his… Read More

Stay on Task!

If you watch or listen to any media that contains advertisements, you have heard commercials and other messages telling us all kinds of lies, as if they’re true. For example: ” We know you need dependable TV 24/7.” … Read More


The inability to express one’s feelings and to talk about one’s difficult experiences can create problems which will not merely fade away. As one writer put it, “Emotions are not biodegradable.” Two clients, a married couple – call… Read More

Trust, Fear, Love

A distorted idea of love can lead people to make horribly bad decisions. In speaking to their counselors, clients present a wide variety of words and phrases to describe their problems. Among the endless stream of words, a… Read More


Nineteen years of experience, including fourteen years as therapist and Program Director at a treatment center for teens, have have provided me with knowledge and understanding of relationship problems. Foremost among those problems are the ever-present difficulties in… Read More