The Fixer

An unmarried couple has come for counseling, both previously married with children. They live separately in their own homes. She has a graduate degree and works in a behavioral health system. He has less education and works in… Read More

Predictability & Anxiety

As a therapist, I have observed that most people who have anxiety complain of a low tolerance for uncertainty. Not knowing what’s going to happen in a given situation is liable to make them uncomfortable, anxious or even… Read More

PATIENCE

If you struggle to make smart decisions, please read on.

Loving the Bad Boy

When she calls me, she can hardly speak – her voice is choked with sobs. She tells me her boyfriend is the worst kind of narcissist. Not just selfish, but mean and hurtful. He doesn’t help with the bills.

MIXED MESSAGES

A middle-aged man has been hospitalized in a psychiatric ward for weeks. His diagnosis of schizophrenia includes symptoms such as delusions and paranoid thinking. His mother visits occasionally, and each time he is told that she is on… Read More

TAKING CHARGE OF PROBLEMS

Problems such as anxiety and depression respond very well to changes in behavior, attitude and thinking. In fact, mental and behavioral health providers agree on this point – medication alone is not enough. In one particular area the… Read More

What is Intelligence?

“You can fool all of the people some of the time and some of the people all of the time, but you cannot fool all of the people all of the time.” – Abraham Lincoln All of us… Read More

Understanding Your Feelings

Are men really less sensitive to emotions than women are? My work experience convinces me that’s true. Here is a case in point. One of my male clients reports that he has difficulty understanding what he’s feeling, and… Read More

Healing Emotional Hurts

Therapy for people suffering from psychological trauma took a giant leap forward when EMDR Therapy came onto the scene. Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) is proven effective in the treatment of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), as well… Read More

The Mother of Emotions

“Freedom’s just another word for nothing left to lose.” – Kris Kristofferson Fear is the source of most, if not all, painful emotions. Hatred, rage, apathy, social anxiety, phobias, envy, jealousy, excessive worry, suspicion, greed, and certain forms… Read More