What Is Stupidity?

All of us, as we go through our lives, are called upon to evaluate other people. Are they decent, honest, could we be friends and can I trust them?  When it comes to deciding whether to trust others,… Read More

Room to Move

A wise teacher once told me, “People often experience suffering because they believe, rightly or wrongly, that they are out of options.” In a previous blog post I wrote about dependency, and that a relationship of extreme inequality… Read More

Too Late!

She: Do you love me? He: When we were married, I said I loved you. If I change my mind, I’ll let you know. “Ha! A waste of time. When it’s over, it’s over”, said the lady who… Read More

Focus & Listen

Have you ever had trouble communicating with another person? Can you read body language and can you empathize? Have you experienced misunderstandings? Do you have difficulty expressing yourself? If you’ve experienced any such things, how have they contributed… Read More

Is There A Problem?

At some point in our lives, most of us are likely to go through a difficult time. Not all of those situations, but some of them, suggest to us that something has got to change. We recognize that… Read More

Is It Me?

Years ago, I attended an intensive personal growth seminar that was aimed at helping people improve the quality of their lives. Over the four grueling days of trainings, about ten hours each day, three life coaches took turns… Read More

The Cost of Infidelity

Everyone is clued-in to the obvious costs of infidelity. Divorce, loss of reputation, money problems, etc. When children are involved, problems increase. When the extended family and friends find out, there’s more trouble. If the cheater is a… Read More

Learn From Others

“Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it.” – George Santayana “A fool might learn from his own experience, but the wise person learns from the experience of others.” – paraphrased from Otto von Bismarck… Read More


Many of my clients have been kind enough to say what they appreciate about the work we have done together. If they’ve seen therapists in the past, they may report that those therapists helped them somewhat – but… Read More

Online Counseling

In recent years, online counseling, or teletherapy, has gradually become more common and accepted. And then COVID-19 quickened the move toward online counseling. Even before Indiana’s stay-at-home order was in place in response to the pandemic, I had… Read More