But … I LOVE Him!

Counselors who work with people in bad relationships hear all sorts of stories. But there’s one story that pops up surprisingly often. If you watch daytime talk shows, you’ve heard it. He is verbally and physically abusive, emotionally… Read More

Doing for Others

Twenty years ago, I drove a cab for a living. When I arrived at 2:30 a.m., the building was dark except for a single light in a ground floor window.  Under these circumstances, many drivers would just honk once or… Read More


As you probably know, ignorance is different from stupidity. Ignorance consists of a lack of knowledge and understanding. And, to be clear, saying that someone is ignorant does not necessarily mean that the person lacks intelligence. However, ignorance… Read More

A Higher Purpose

Writing this article in the midst of the corona virus pandemic, it seems appropriate to address one particular issue. People are sick and many have died, including doctors, other medical staff and first responders. We might wonder at… Read More

A Flexible Mind

Do you remember the saying, “You can’t teach an old dog new tricks?” Sure, we all know that one. However, not so fast. As you read on, you’ll learn that this old adage is not always true. The… Read More

Your Own Cage

In Eastern Asia, elephants are trained to be beasts of burden, just as mules and oxen are in the west. From a young age, baby elephants are fitted with an ankle cuff, attached to a chain, which is… Read More

Dump Your Garbage

Suppose your home was filled with huge plastic bags and trash cans overflowing with garbage that had been building up throughout your life. Thinking about it now, you can imagine the stench. But if you were in that… Read More

How to Build Trust

These tips are about building bridges between people. For the purposes of this article, I use “friend” to mean anyone with whom we choose to develop trust.   Honesty and Integrity – With others and with yourself –… Read More


I wonder if you, at one time or another, have felt helpless in the face of a personal problem. Bad things happened, you felt awful, and to make maters worse, there was nothing you could do. If you… Read More

Building a Relationship

Imagine that building a relationship is like building something material. A house, a car, a business or career. Kind of weird, isn’t it? To actually give serious thought to building a relationship on a solid foundation? Who does… Read More