Conflict # 49 – Double Your Treasure

In my endeavor to help people with problems, I use something which I call the “Two-Track” approach: Track 1 and Track 2. The reason for this approach is simple. Everyone who comes for help says something like, “I… Read More

Conflict # 48 – Prevention

Group-against-group conflicts have existed throughout history. They are imprinted onto our world, as a color-fast dye becomes a permanent part of a fabric. Some have been resolved, but, as mentioned in a recent article, other conflicts appear impossible… Read More

Conflict # 45 – The Impact of Trauma

Psychological trauma has far-reaching effects. So that we’re on the same page, let’s be clear: what is trauma, actually? Psychological trauma is a condition, in response to a past event(s) that leave the victim with painful feelings, memories,… Read More

Conflict # 44 – Trust Your Gut

“Things are not always what they appear to be. People are not always who they appear to be.” The conflicts we encounter with others are often a result of one or all of the parties not seeing things… Read More

Conflict # 41 – The Trouble with ‘Why’

Years ago, I provided counseling to a fifteen year-old boy; call him “Skip”. His parents, “Chad” and “Juanita”, put him into our treatment center to address his anger, depression, bad behavior and poor school work. A few months… Read More

Conflict # 39 – Carrot or Stick?

Shall we assume you’re interested in improving your conflict management skills? If so, and if you’re honest, you have already concluded that something about your behavior and attitude has to change. Right? Good. Let’s go on, then. Think… Read More

Conflict # 37 – Fight, Flight, Freeze

When conflict arises do you fight, flee, or freeze up? If you fight, do you … – Lash out verbally – Get physical – Use sarcasm – Plot your revenge – Involve other people as allies – Demand… Read More

Conflict # 36 – Manipulation, part 2

Have you heard of the classic comic movie, “You Can’t Cheat An Honest Man”? The title is actually an old saying, and it’s generally true. Con artists, the ultimate manipulators, succeed by making their victims feel special or… Read More

Conflict # 29 – Letting Go

“All happy families are alike; each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.” – from Anna Karenina by Leo Tolstoy Of the many influences you’ve experienced through your life, what would you say has had the greatest… Read More

Conflict # 25 – Avoidance

Since reasonable people don’t enjoy rough personal conflict, they tend to avoid it when possible. They pick their battles carefully. I mention “rough conflict” as opposed to respectful disagreements. There’s no harm in having a civil discussion of… Read More