“If you were as smart as you think you are, you wouldn’t be able to tolerate being around someone like me.” For several years, a married couple – call them Doug and Helen – came regularly for help… Read More

Who Owns Your Brain?

I recently conducted a session with a new client and his wife in which the gentleman expressed outrage about what is happening in America today. He said that the feeling of outrage is affecting his thinking and his… Read More

Compassion Fatigue

Before becoming a therapist, the term ‘compassion fatigue’ was unknown to me. It seems self-explanatory: exhaustion as a result of caring for the critical needs of one or more persons over a long period of time. Obviously, it… Read More

Motivating Yourself!

Motivational speakers. They’re everywhere. YouTube, podcasts, television. Men, women, old, young, disabled, physically fit, people of all backgrounds. It’s not a bad idea to listen to these people. You can learn a lot from them. However, consider how… Read More


“How many psychologists does it take to change a light bulb? Just one. But the light bulb has to really want to change.” In my therapy practice I encounter lots of people who are not motivated to change a… Read More


Poorly managed stress can lead to early-onset memory loss and even dementia. This claim is not a mere opinion. It is factual, and it is based on reliable research. If you wish to live a long and happy… Read More


Thought patterns. What are they, and why should we think about them? Well, the reason is not hard to understand. The way we think has a huge impact on our behavior and our emotions, and it can make… Read More

Why The Drama?

In the last twenty or thirty years, the meaning of the word, “drama” has come to include something that has nothing to do with stories. It seems that some pop star in the last few decades started using… Read More


Several years ago, long after texting had become the preferred way for some people to exchange words, some genius from some magazine wrote in praise of texting, saying, “At least people are communicating.” No kidding? Texting is communicating?… Read More


If we agree that self-discipline is a virtue, and that we benefit from exercising it, this article may be of interest. The reason for writing about it is that it often seems to be missing in people who… Read More