Guilt and Shame

To be guilty means that one is responsible for doing something wrong. When a person says he feels guilty, he is saying he is experiencing an emotion akin to sadness, disappointment with oneself, and a sense of shame. … Read More

Stuck!

In general any person who seeks counseling is feeling badly and understands that something must change. If he is honest, he will also accept the fact that it’s often something about himself that must change: his way of… Read More

Staying Positive

You may know the old saying about the daily news business: “If it bleeds, it leads.” That is how the news business operates. On any given day news reports focus first and foremost on a tragedy. The more… Read More

Beyond Limitations

Have you ever had doubts about yourself? Your ability to do well in school or at work, to have a healthy relationship, to make smart decisions and to solve problems? If so, you’re not alone. History tells us… Read More

Compassion

Let us begin by agreeing on the meaning of compassion. Adding to a standard dictionary definition, it seems clear that compassion includes the act of feeling and showing sympathetic caring for the suffering and misfortune of others. Some… Read More

MOTIVATION

“How many psychologists does it take to change a light bulb? Just one. But the light bulb has to really want to change.” In my therapy practice I encounter lots of people who are not motivated to change a… Read More

Curiosity

“Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson What a wonderful thought about enthusiasm; and the same could be said about curiosity. The purpose of this article is to consider problems like anxiety and depression,… Read More

Learn From Others

“Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it.” – George Santayana “A fool might learn from his own experience, but the wise person learns from the experience of others.” – paraphrased from Otto von Bismarck… Read More

Doing for Others

Twenty years ago, I drove a cab for a living. When I arrived at 2:30 a.m., the building was dark except for a single light in a ground floor window.  Under these circumstances, many drivers would just honk once or… Read More

A Higher Purpose

Writing this article in the midst of the corona virus pandemic, it seems appropriate to address one particular issue. People are sick and many have died, including doctors, other medical staff and first responders. We might wonder at… Read More