Staying On Track

Years ago I had a client who was an alcoholic. He was active in Alcoholics Anonymous, he kept a positive attitude and was doing well. But in one particular session he was clearly discouraged, because something very disappointing… Read More

Making Friends

Several years ago, a middle-aged couple came to see me. As often happens, it was the wife who insisted on seeing a counselor, against her husband’s wishes. Throughout their thirty-year marriage she had complained of feeling lonely, but… Read More

The Worry Habit

Two monks were walking to their monastery home in the countryside. After a heavy rain, puddles of water, large and small, dotted the byways. After some time they saw a young woman by the road, staring down at… Read More

Mistakes Are Friends, Part 2

Albert Einstein was not only a brilliant scientist, but also had a wonderful way with words, and is often quoted. One shining example: “We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we… Read More

Your Mistakes Are Your Friends

Are you hard on yourself when you don’t do as good a job as you believed you should have done? When you make a big mistake … How do you feel? What do you tell yourself? Do you… Read More


As therapist and program director at a teen treatment center, over a period of thirteen years I led thousands of group sessions. Located in northwest Indiana, we played host to hundreds of kids from nearby Gary and Chicago…. Read More

Stop Comparing Yourself

As a kid, did you ever hear a parent say, “Why can’t you be like your brother?” … “Your cousin, Katie, can ride a two-wheeler and she’s only six years old. Why can’t you?” Now that you’re grown,… Read More


It’s being talked about all over the place: technology has us addicted to screens and gadgets. We spend as much, if not more, time with them than with people. Social media, with its ability to draw us into… Read More


One of the greatest stressors in life must be the feeling of failure. And that feeling may be heightened if your successes came early in life, only to fizzle out later on. You’ve heard of child stars whose… Read More


Most of us have experienced stress in the workplace. In fact the American Psychological Association’s annual Stress in America Survey reports that only 1/3 of Americans surveyed said that they did a very good or excellent job managing… Read More