Conflict # 43 – Just Look at Yourself!
Effective conflict resolution demands a calm demeanor and clear thinking. But stressful feelings get in the way and make it difficult to see oneself accurately. This is a problem.
Now, first of all … do you agree that you must know yourself well – your strengths, weaknesses, prejudices and limitations – in order to properly handle conflict? And in order to know yourself well, you need to give thought to your behavior and attitude in all situations? Some people get this, and others don’t.
Think about your way of handling conflict. If you had to grade yourself on honesty – honesty with yourself, that is. Being willing and able to admit your errors and your flaws – what grade would you give yourself?
Is it possible that some people haven’t the ability to see inside? They’re permanently blind to their own shortcomings? Is that you?
Is it possible that some people flatly refuse to accept they could be wrong? And they’ll never examine their role in a conflict. Instead, always blaming the other person. Is that you?
If you’ve been following my posts, you’ve learned what to do and what not to do in resolving conflict. But none of this information is worth a dime, if you don’t identify what you are doing wrong and if you’re not willing to do something about it.
Maybe it just comes down to being humble. Some cocky kids eventually get there, somewhere down the road … and some never make it.
Are you willing to look in the mirror and take honest stock of yourself?
If you think you need to do this, but you don’t know how … or just thinking of it makes you sweat … please don’t hesitate to give me a call. A free consultation is available at 219-309-3928. I’d be honored to talk to you.
Thanks for reading!