The Easy Life

Do you know anyone who does not like to be challenged? Do you know someone who distrusts authority figures? What about a person who stays away from groups or organizations that seek to hold him accountable?

Thinking back to your school years, you may have known one or two people like that. They defied the teachers and coaches, and even their parents. They didn’t want anyone telling them what to do.

That sort of personality places a high value on individual freedom; for her, it’s about having the time, space and license to do what she wants to do, when she wants to do it. The very idea of conforming to accepted norms and social rules, or having anything expect of her is like a crucifix to Dracula. She insists on being free! Again, her definition of freedom consists of not being influenced or controlled by any person or group.

A dramatic illustration: Many American cities contain tens of thousands of homeless people. While a good number of them are homeless owing to situations outside their control, some of those people choose to be homeless. They refuse to be part of a society that holds them to the justifiable expectations of a contributing citizen. Thus, not being controlled by a time-clock or a boss, for example, they believe they are free. In reality, they are not free in the truest sense of the word. They merely have a different set of jailers. Their lives are completely at the mercy of outside forces: poverty, the weather, poor health, drug addiction, violent strangers and much more. 

Apart from that extreme example, consider a less dramatic one. That is, the general tendency amongst humankind to reject doing hard things. If we’re honest, we might have to admit that all of us, at one time or another, could be guilty as charged. This is not a point of shame or blame. It seems to be part of the human condition. The problem is that, if it becomes a habit, it may be nearly impossible to mature, to learn and to develop the kind of wisdom we could, then, bestow onto others. 

What would it be like to approach the end of your life, and to realize that you never allowed yourself to be challenged, never did anything that tested your abilities or that demanded you do better? And then, what conclusion would you come to about who you are?

As long as we’ve been around, people have puzzled over the meaning and the purpose of life. While countless explanations have emerged, one thing is always true and certain. We are not alone. Every one of us, if we are willing, has the ability to do something good for at least one person we encounter in the course of our lives. This is surely one way we can experience meaning and value. And the more we better ourselves, the more we have to give to others. And yet, so many people never consider this to be possible for them. Maybe they’ve been programmed to feel inadequate, afraid or weak. That is a topic for another day. 

Have you ever felt that you have been tempted to settle for a so-called ‘easy’ life? Are you unhappy, and is there a possible connection between the two? If so, it make be time to take stock. Read up on the subject, consult the internet, podcasts, etc. if that’s your preference. However, if you like the idea of working with a professional to sort this out, please feel free to reach out. The telephone number is (219) 309-3928. I would be honored to help you to discover your purpose and to realize your potential.

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