When we are facing a problem, clear thinking is essential. Confusion must be eliminated. If you have ever been confused when addressing a tough issue, you know that the stress surrounding the issue increases when we are unable to make a decision or to find a solution. Thus, it makes sense to examine confusion and to see whether it is possible to gain clarity.

The focus will be on personal problems, such as coping with painful emotions, situations, and relationships. Let’s take a look at the factors that create confusion.

First,  too much information. If you’ve been to a restaurant with a huge menu, you know how hard it can be to decide what to order. As you deal with a personal problem, seek out information only from trusted sources which provides supporting evidence. Beware of information overload as well as misinformation. When sharing your problem with others, limit your sharing to only one or two trusted friends, colleagues, or family members. 

Second, be aware when it seems that other people are trying to influence your decision. Think about their motives. Are they reacting to your situation based on their own life story? Do they have an agenda? Do they really care about you?

Third, are you struggling to make a decision because you question yourself? Do you doubt your judgment and your sense of right and wrong?  Are you afraid of making a mistake which could cause pain for you or someone you care about? Do you fear rejection? Do you fear losing something or someone?

Any of the unwanted emotions – fear/anxiety, sadness or anger – could cloud one’s thinking. In my experience fear is the number one culprit. People who are easily confused when facing a problem are always afraid of something or someone. They lack confidence in their intelligence and their ability to make good decisions. Perhaps they have been trained to see themselves as stupid, weak, or lazy. They become dependent on others. They feel like failures. As a result, they are mentally paralyzed whenever they are required to make a difficult decision, or to handle a personal problem.

If they wish to change this, the first task is to accept that they have this difficulty. Then, to have the courage to inquire whether help is possible. Once they actually believe that they can overcome their fear, they can begin the journey to healing their damaged sense of self-worth. They can develop confidence and certainty in what they believe to be true, and trust they can make smart decisions. 

Individuals who’ve been conditioned to not trust themselves, may need ongoing support from a trusted friend or a professional. If this situation speaks to you, and you would like to explore solutions for yourself, please feel free to call. The number is 219-309-3928. It would be an honor to be of service.

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