WHAT’S THE PROBLEM?
The first thing I ask after greeting and having a few pleasant words, is for the client to say what he or she wants to get out of therapy; then, to state the problem. It might be surprising… Read More
Honesty with Yourself
Being honest with oneself can be hard; the mind is not necessarily designed to pursue truth, when the truth hurts. It is designed to keep one feeling mentally stable. Also, to preserve self-worth, maintain a sense of belonging… Read More
Teach Your Children Well
Discipline for kids works best if it teaches self-control, responsibility, and respect instead of relying on fear or punishment. Children usually respond best when discipline is predictable, delivered with self-control and proportionate. Some generally accepted ideas are: Consistency… Read More
Handling Hardship
There is an old saying, “Soft lands make soft people.” In other words, a culture of comfort and prosperity produces a population that cannot handle hardship. Is it any wonder that younger generations are convinced of the legitimacy… Read More
Narcissistic Power
Why do some people give in to narcissists, submitting to their demands, enabling their behavior, tolerating manipulation, or staying in toxic relationships? Consider the following factors: 1. Better “the devil you know” – early life conditioning Having a… Read More
ROLE MODELING
I recently got a call from a mother seeking help for her anxious 15 year-old daughter. As the mom talked, it was obvious that she was agitated and tense. She spoke loud and fast and she spoke a… Read More
End of Friendship
An epidemic of anger and hatred grips today’s world. Husbands and wives argue politics. Holiday dinners can be ruined by nasty disagreements over just about anything. Hard feelings all around within families and between friends – even very… Read More
Your Past
Do you dwell on your past? Do you ever feel regret, guilt, shame or any other disturbing emotion when you remember things you’ve done? If that is true, do those feelings get in the way of your happiness?… Read More
Pleasure isn’t Happiness
People are drawn to pleasure. From ancient days to modern times, people have pursued comfort, amusement and pleasure as if they signified a good life. But history, philosophy, and even psychology warn against making pleasure our ultimate goal… Read More
Personality and Character
Have you ever made a mistake in a relationship? Have you hurt or misjudged someone? Have you ever experienced disappointment or betrayal? Whether you’ve been on the giving or the receiving end, you might find this information valuable. … Read More
