Warning Signs
Some problems are caused by powers beyond our control. But other problems are the product of our own errors. One such error is the refusal to acknowledge and to accept reality. Let’s take a hypothetical couple – call… Read More
Conflict # 66 – Relationship and Rules
“Rules minus relationship equals rebellion.” – Josh McDowell Blended families have their own unique sets of problems. One of the most common is that the step-parent attempts to exercise authority over the spouse’s children, without having formed a… Read More
Conflict # 65 – Breaking the Pattern
The resolution of some conflicts may not be as hard as it appears. I once worked with a couple who were in daily conflict with each other. They were stuck in a number of unhealthy patterns. Among them,… Read More
Conflict # 64 – Perspective
In order to handle conflict effectively, we must be in a calm state of mind and body. That means we need to manage our own stresses, understand what triggers us to feel threatened, upset, unbalanced, and know how… Read More
Conflict # 63 – Now and Forever
If you attended public school in the United States, your school conducted monthly fire drills to help you respond in an emergency. The students knew exactly what to do when the buzzer or bell rang. And the staff… Read More
Conflict # 62 – Your Inner Language
In my previous articles you may have read about the mistakes made by virtually everyone when trying to resolve a conflict. Let’s look at one of the big mistakes. Actually a three-part mistake. First, assuming you know what… Read More
Conflict # 61 – A Hard Truth
In a previous article I proposed the idea that unhappiness often results from holding unrealistic expectations; that is, expectations not based on evidence or facts. Instead, such expectations are based on a number of misconceptions. Here are two… Read More
Conflict # 60 – The Instigator
I recently received requests for couples counseling from two women, both around 35 to 40 years of age – call them “Tiffany” and “Brittany”. Tiffany has three children from a previous relationship. She also has a one year-old… Read More
Conflict # 59 – Abuse & Fear
I’ve provided counseling to numerous victims of sexual, physical and emotional abuse. Their courage and openness have allowed them to provide great insights into the short-term and long-term after-effects of abuse. One such effect is difficulty in handing… Read More
