Trauma Advice
The healing of emotional trauma usually will not occur through conversation and analysis alone. Conversation and analysis can help to describe the problem and its sources. But mere description does not produce healing. Think of your mind, your… Read More
Tolerating Loss
When you hear the word, “permanent”, what comes to mind? Earthly substances, like sand and water? The sun and stars? Precious gems? Gold? Love? Wealth? We’ve all heard the phrase, “I’ve got it made.” No more striving or… Read More
WHAT’S THE PROBLEM?
The first thing I ask after greeting and having a few pleasant words, is for the client to say what he or she wants to get out of therapy; then, to state the problem. It might be surprising… Read More
Honesty with Yourself
Being honest with oneself can be hard; the mind is not necessarily designed to pursue truth, when the truth hurts. It is designed to keep one feeling mentally stable. Also, to preserve self-worth, maintain a sense of belonging… Read More
Ready, Set, Heal!
The healing of trauma cannot be done merely through conversation and analysis. The healing happens in another way. If you’ve been through emotional trauma, you know that traumatic memories sap your energy and happiness, just as a weed… Read More
Teach Your Children Well
Discipline for kids works best if it teaches self-control, responsibility, and respect instead of relying on fear or punishment. Children usually respond best when discipline is predictable, delivered with self-control and proportionate. Some generally accepted ideas are: Consistency… Read More
Handling Hardship
There is an old saying, “Soft lands make soft people.” In other words, a culture of comfort and prosperity produces a population that cannot handle hardship. Is it any wonder that younger generations are convinced of the legitimacy… Read More
Narcissistic Power
Why do some people give in to narcissists, submitting to their demands, enabling their behavior, tolerating manipulation, or staying in toxic relationships? Consider the following factors: 1. Better “the devil you know” – early life conditioning Having a… Read More
ROLE MODELING
I recently got a call from a mother seeking help for her anxious 15 year-old daughter. As the mom talked, it was obvious that she was agitated and tense. She spoke loud and fast and she spoke a… Read More
End of Friendship
An epidemic of anger and hatred grips today’s world. Husbands and wives argue politics. Holiday dinners can be ruined by nasty disagreements over just about anything. Hard feelings all around within families and between friends – even very… Read More
