Platitudes

Don’t you just love it when people use the same old tired sayings that everyone else does? What’s even worse is the occasions when they pull them out as you’re going through a tough time. A loved one… Read More

HONESTY

Ashley was thrilled to show her husband, Jason, her new yellow dress, but was worried that the dress made her look fat. Even so, she took a chance, she put it on, modeled it for Jason and asked,… Read More

Who Cares?

“It is better to keep silent and be thought a fool, than to speak and remove all doubt.” – Variously attributed to Mark Twain, Abraham Lincoln and others Do you ever have trouble figuring out what to say,… Read More

KNOWLEDGE

Thieves may steal your valuables. A natural disaster may destroy your home. Enemies may inflict death and destruction. But there is one thing no one can take from you. That thing is knowledge. Knowledge blesses us with power, freedom… Read More

The Fixer

An unmarried couple has come for counseling, both previously married with children. They live separately in their own homes. She has a graduate degree and works in a behavioral health system. He has less education and works in… Read More

Predictability & Anxiety

As a therapist, I have observed that most people who have anxiety complain of a low tolerance for uncertainty. Not knowing what’s going to happen in a given situation is liable to make them uncomfortable, anxious or even… Read More

PATIENCE

If you struggle to make smart decisions, please read on.

Loving the Bad Boy

When she calls me, she can hardly speak – her voice is choked with sobs. She tells me her boyfriend is the worst kind of narcissist. Not just selfish, but mean and hurtful. He doesn’t help with the bills.

MIXED MESSAGES

A middle-aged man has been hospitalized in a psychiatric ward for weeks. His diagnosis of schizophrenia includes symptoms such as delusions and paranoid thinking. His mother visits occasionally, and each time he is told that she is on… Read More

TAKING CHARGE OF PROBLEMS

Problems such as anxiety and depression respond very well to changes in behavior, attitude and thinking. In fact, mental and behavioral health providers agree on this point – medication alone is not enough. In one particular area the… Read More