Processing Your Experience

When we have an unwanted experience, each of us processes the experience in our own unique ways. Some tend to focus on emotions; others, on analyzing the experience. Regardless of your style or your personality, please think about… Read More

The Needy Parent

In previous articles I have said that the marital relationship is the most important relationship in a family. [Blended families are a separate problem, because a parent’s loyalty and devotion to his or her children may be greater… Read More

Love Vs. Trust

I meet with a couple who is struggling through a betrayal. He cheated. She is crushed. It’s been many months, and she can’t forgive, much less forget. Nearly every day a thought enters her mind, something like, ‘is… Read More

The Insecure Parent

Several years ago a couple came for counseling over a period of two years. They were middle-aged, fairly successful and had a very bright teen-aged son, who excelled at school and adored his parents. The mom had multiple… Read More

A Bedtime Wonder

Heart attacks occur on Monday mornings more than at any other time of the week. It’s no wonder. National surveys show that most Americans dislike their jobs. Every week, Sunday night rolls into Monday morning, and these folks… Read More

Platitudes

Don’t you just love it when people use the same old tired sayings that everyone else does? What’s even worse is the occasions when they pull them out as you’re going through a tough time. A loved one… Read More

HONESTY

Ashley was thrilled to show her husband, Jason, her new yellow dress, but was worried that the dress made her look fat. Even so, she took a chance, she put it on, modeled it for Jason and asked,… Read More

Who Cares?

“It is better to keep silent and be thought a fool, than to speak and remove all doubt.” – Variously attributed to Mark Twain, Abraham Lincoln and others Do you ever have trouble figuring out what to say,… Read More

KNOWLEDGE

Thieves may steal your valuables. A natural disaster may destroy your home. Enemies may inflict death and destruction. But there is one thing no one can take from you. That thing is knowledge. Knowledge blesses us with power, freedom… Read More

The Fixer

An unmarried couple has come for counseling, both previously married with children. They live separately in their own homes. She has a graduate degree and works in a behavioral health system. He has less education and works in… Read More