I wonder if you, at one time or another, have felt helpless in the face of a personal problem. Bad things happened, you felt awful, and to make maters worse, there was nothing you could do. If you were overwhelmed with emotions which clouded your judgment, your ability to make good decisions was compromised. You’re not alone. We’ve all been there.

It is at times like these that the strength or weakness of our sense of self can make all the difference. In my profession this is called “ego strength.”

Now, what is ego strength, exactly? Well, in the first place, it has nothing to do with a big ego. It’s actually about having the maturity and the good sense to balance the pressures of your desires and appetites on one hand, against the social rules, ideals and customs of our culture, on the other hand. It is also the quality of being comfortable in your own skin, knowing who you are and what you want to get out of life. This is only possible if you have the courage and honesty to accept that limitations do exist. That life is fraught with hard realities you can’t change. That you need not be controlled by your emotions. That you are big enough to let go of negativity and hard feelings and to bounce back after a setback; to make sound decisions and to solve problems, to name just a few key points.

Ego strength is not built-in when we’re born. It’s not part of our personalities. It’s something we learn – or don’t learn – as we grow into adulthood. 

Now, since brain science has proved conclusively that normally functioning people can “re-wire” their brains at any stage of life, it stands to reason that anyone, at any time, can learn to develop a strong ego. Once again, in this case, the idea of a strong ego has nothing to do with feeling superior or being egotistical.

Identify your strengths and build upon them. If you need to take an aptitude test to help you get started, by all means do that. If you already know what you’re good at, and if it’s something that would benefit others, explore it. Get really good at it. Spend hundreds and thousands of hours doing it. Build your self-confidence and a firm sense of who you are, what you do and what you have to offer. 

If you’d like some additional guidance or coaching, please don’t hesitate to call for a free consultation. The number is 219-309-3928.

Thanks for reading!