PATIENCE

Life can be confusing. We learn that one thing is true, and then we learn another thing, just the opposite, is equally true. For example …

“Good things come to those who wait.” And, “Patience is a virtue.” And, then there’s, “The early bird gets the worm.” And “Strike while the iron is hot.”

What to do, what to do? Well, it seems that the right decision might depend on the situation. That’s what a lot of people would say. No argument there.

In handling difficult situations, we are wise to focus on what we can control, and to refrain from stressing over things we can’t control. Thus, we need to discern the difference between those two circumstances. 

Following that line, please consider this idea. The ability to make a correct decision depends not only on our understanding of the circumstances, but also on seeing the difference between the demands of one option compared with another. Yet again, we need to discern whether the situation demands action now, or whether the correct course is to wait patiently.

Then, the question becomes, how do we tell the difference? Since this is an exercise in reasoning, the logical approach seems to make sense. Take two pieces of paper. Title one page “Act Now”. The other page, “Wait Patiently.” Underneath the title, draw a line down the center of each page. One side of the line gets a sub-title, “Pro”, and the other side of the line is sub-titled, “Con”.

After you’ve listed the pros and cons of each option, you then make your decision. This practice alone requires patience. You may find that a part of you wants to rebel against this method, because your gut is yelling at you. Now, in many cases it’s correct to trust your gut. This, again, is a case of having to discern whether to trust your reasoning or your gut.

It never seems to end, does it? If that frustrates you, here’s a neat little helper. One of my family members has a little plaque on his desk with the saying, “Life is a school.” If you can accept this and embrace it, the frustration melts away.

If you’ve struggled with patience in decision-making, you might benefit from a no-cost consult. The phone number is 219-309-3928. I’d be honored to be of service.

Thanks for reading!