Pillow Thoughts

“Do not let the sun go down on your anger…” – Ephesians 4:26

Whether or not you believe in the God of the Bible, this advice can help you. 

Dr. Martin Seligman, who is officially recognized as one of the top ten psychologists of the 20th century, developed a way of doing therapy that focuses on positives, rather than on negatives. Thus, it is called “Positive Psychology”. In the course of this innovation he invented a technique that helped people with depression, apart from the use of medication. The discovery was that people with depression who deliberately put their attention on three good things that happened that day, as they are in bed, head on the pillow, achieved greater relief than people who did not use the technique.

My clients who have used that technique have reported that it worked! As a result, it seemed logical that this might help people with other problems. All undesired emotions fall into one of three categories: sad, mad, scared. Those emotions include envy, jealousy, suspicion, self-disappointment, feelings of failure, irritability, bitterness and resentment, outrage and many others. Let’s look at anxiety, for example. Since it is known that a grateful attitude is an antidote to anxiety and excessive worry, I have had clients with anxiety do the same technique, with one slight change. That is, they are to think of three things for which they are grateful. Many of these clients say that this helps them awaken with a better attitude, and continue the day with less anxiety and worry.

How does this work? It may have something to do with the subconscious mind. We can wonder whether the subconscious mind is especially open to suggestion when you are preparing for sleep. And is it possible that the thoughts and emotions you feel at that time can become embedded in your subconscious mind? And if so, is it possible that those embedded thoughts and emotions will affect your waking thoughts, emotions and actions? 

You can test this for yourself. If you tend to focus on negative thoughts and/or feel unwanted emotions when you go to bed, use Dr. Seligman’s technique for one week or so. Notice how your mood and your thoughts change on the following day. It may take several nights of practice before you feel the benefits, so stick with it. 

This simple habit might be just what you need to help you rise up out of a temporary funk or to help you with chronic depression or anxiety.

If you’d like to know more about this, please feel free to ask. The contact number is 219-309-3928. I would be more than glad to be of help.

For more thoughts on this click Self-Discipline

Thanks for reading!