Conflict # 31 – Failing to Prepare

“If you fail to plan for success, you are planning for failure.” – Author Unknown

Some ministers will not officiate at a marriage ceremony unless the couple attends pre-marital counseling. This may seem judgmental. But if you think about it, the minister has a point. He or she doesn’t want to be part of a marriage unless the two people are ready to face the challenges up ahead.

If you’ve ever gone job-hunting, did you get accurate information about the companies you applied to? Suppose one of them hired you, and you later found out the company was dishonest? What then? Would you be forced to go along or would you quit? And if you quit, would you get a good reference from them?

In the course of leading lots of stress management workshops, one critical principle my colleagues and I emphasize is the importance of preparation. It’s essential to success in every area of life. Athletes and musicians warm up before playing. Smart negotiators, lawyers and politicians never enter an important meeting, unprepared.

When you and someone you care about need to work something out, do you just dive in without thinking ahead? If so, do you ever get any surprises? Does the conversation take a bad turn?

Instead of winging it, be wise. Think before you speak. Imagine how the other person will react if you do this or that. Imagine how your attitude and actions could set the stage for a positive outcome. Think about how you will react if the other person does not cooperate. And remember this: the conflict resolution process will probably end the same way it started.

If you’d like to learn more about how to prepare, call me at 219-309-3928 for a free consultation. I’ll be honored to speak with you.

Thanks for reading!