The Needy Parent

In previous articles I have said that the marital relationship is the most important relationship in a family. [Blended families are a separate problem, because a parent’s loyalty and devotion to his or her children may be greater… Read More

Love Vs. Trust

I meet with a couple who is struggling through a betrayal. He cheated. She is crushed. It’s been many months, and she can’t forgive, much less forget. Nearly every day a thought enters her mind, something like, ‘is… Read More

The Insecure Parent

Several years ago a couple came for counseling over a period of two years. They were middle-aged, fairly successful and had a very bright teen-aged son, who excelled at school and adored his parents. The mom had multiple… Read More

HONESTY

Ashley was thrilled to show her husband, Jason, her new yellow dress, but was worried that the dress made her look fat. Even so, she took a chance, she put it on, modeled it for Jason and asked,… Read More

KNOWLEDGE

Thieves may steal your valuables. A natural disaster may destroy your home. Enemies may inflict death and destruction. But there is one thing no one can take from you. That thing is knowledge. Knowledge blesses us with power, freedom… Read More

The Fixer

An unmarried couple has come for counseling, both previously married with children. They live separately in their own homes. She has a graduate degree and works in a behavioral health system. He has less education and works in… Read More

Loving the Bad Boy

When she calls me, she can hardly speak – her voice is choked with sobs. She tells me her boyfriend is the worst kind of narcissist. Not just selfish, but mean and hurtful. He doesn’t help with the bills.

MIXED MESSAGES

A middle-aged man has been hospitalized in a psychiatric ward for weeks. His diagnosis of schizophrenia includes symptoms such as delusions and paranoid thinking. His mother visits occasionally, and each time he is told that she is on… Read More

What is Intelligence?

“You can fool all of the people some of the time and some of the people all of the time, but you cannot fool all of the people all of the time.” – Abraham Lincoln All of us… Read More

Responsibility and Boundaries

I’ve been working with a particularly troubled couple. She is a college graduate and works in the social services field. Her salary is not quite enough to support them and their toddler. He did not graduate from high… Read More