Having It All
“Nothing important was ever accomplished without enthusiasm.”
Think about your work life. If you were to spread your interests too thin, wouldn’t it be impossible to focus and be enthusiastic about one thing, and to become expert at it?
What gets in the way of choosing one path and sticking to it? While several obstacles may be responsible, this article addresses just one of them: the inability or refusal to zero in on one choice and to give up pursuing other choices, at least for the time being.
Clearly, this problem will frustrate the attempt to succeed. Failing to resolve it can produce feelings of failure, leading to bitterness, depression and physical health problems. Let’s examine what is going on in such cases.
The person who cannot or will not focus full attention on one profession, job or career would be wise to be honest with himself. Not “why” he can’t decide, but, rather, what is going on in his heart and mind. If the person is honest, she might notice that when it’s time to decide on important issues, her mind freezes up. He may feel overwhelmed, confused. He may notice that if he chooses option A, he cannot also have option B or C. And he finds himself saying, “but I want to do all of these things.” She may realize that she is unwilling to give up anything. She may suddenly see that she has never been taught discipline as she was growing up. He may notice that he has no patience and wants what he wants, now. He may have to dig deep in order to accept that no one gets what he wants all the time, and to expect that is a sign of immaturity, ignorance, and, if it persists, stupidity.; that is; the inability to learn from one’s mistakes.
Fortunately, the majority of people who have been thinking and operating in this way can change their attitudes, beliefs and behavior. Perhaps the question is this: what will it take to motivate the change? A dramatic life event? A catastrophe, such as a brush with death? Does a person have to hit bottom in order to see the light? This may be true for some, but not for others.
It is also true that some people will never accept the fact that you can’t always have it all. Now, if you are grappling with hard decisions, and unable or unwilling to let go of something you want … and if you see the cost of it … and you’d like to change it, please feel free to reach out. In these situations an outside voice can help you see solutions that have been hidden from view. The phone number is (219) 309-3928. It would be an honor to be of service.
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