Staying Positive

You may know the old saying about the daily news business: “If it bleeds, it leads.” That is how the news business operates. On any given day news reports focus first and foremost on a tragedy. The more tragic, the more horrible and dangerous, the better. Apparently, that’s what attracts attention. People don’t generally gather around the water cooler or the break station at work to talk about how the nice fireman saved the kitty from the rubble after a fire. 

Regularly focusing on bad stuff ultimately leads to a rather unpleasant state of heart and mind. Can you feel it in the air these days? Can you sense the negative energy swirling all around us in today’s world? It can wear a body down, and that’s a problem. So, why does it keep going on? Well, for one thing, the news media and social media feed into it and thrive on it, and they use it to generate controversy which stimulates viewership and activity on its platforms. This is how they make money. And they couldn’t care less how their actions affect us.

It does not matter to them that this ever-present negative energy can alter our mood, our attitude, our behavior and our relationships. They do not care that the various stresses of the COVID-19 pandemic have combined with all the existing negativity to create an emotionally toxic environment.

So, how does one maintain a positive attitude in the face of all this negativity? Let’s consider some questions, take a look at ourselves and explore what we could do about it.

First of all, it is a fact that our mood and attitude are largely determined by the way we use our minds. Do you tend to spin out worst-case stories in your imagination? When other people behave badly, how does your mind interpret their actions? Are you easily offended, and do you take things personally? Are you in the habit of trying to figure out a solution to something that you can’t possibly influence? Are you plagued by self-defeating beliefs that keep you isolated and feeling lonely? 

What do you pay attention to? Do you ever stop and think about all the things you have – as opposed to what you’re missing – and all the things for which you could feel grateful? Do you spend time with optimistic, cheerful people? Or do you find those people phony, too goody-goody or boring? Does it ever occur to you to reach out and talk to someone, just to let them know you’re thinking of them? Who does that anymore?

Are you taking care of yourself physically? Do you get enough exercise and sleep? Do you allow yourself down time? Do you eat healthy? I know, I know. These are all no-brainer concepts. And yet, it’s amazing that, while people know what they ought to do, they still don’t do it!

If you are having trouble staying positive in this very troubled time, you have lots of options to help you feel better. Books, podcasts, videos, they’re all out there. But if you’d like to have some quality one-on-one time with a professional, please feel free to give me a call. The number is (219) 309-3928. I’d be honored to work with you.

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