Conflict # 44 – Trust Your Gut
“Things are not always what they appear to be. People are not always who they appear to be.”
The conflicts we encounter with others are often a result of one or all of the parties not seeing things clearly. The situation is not actually the way we see it. And the other people are not who we think they are. Sometimes the responsibility is ours; our view is clouded by distorted thinking, self-defeating emotions or bad information. And sometimes we’re being deliberately deceived.
A recent television show focused on the fact that people lie. They lie by telling untruths. They lie by leaving out important information. They lie by manipulating our emotions. They lie with the words they use, and with body language. Some people are not good liars; they’re easy to spot. Others are so good they can outwit a lie detector. Still others lie, genuinely believing they’re speaking the truth.
Some folks are good at identifying a liar; others, not so much. But even someone who’s a skilled reader of body language can be fooled.
You can study non-verbal communication, and you can learn to spot the various manipulations that habitual liars use. And there’s one more thing you might find, at times, to be more accurate than what you’ve learned by studying and observation. That is your gut feeling.
Have you ever had that uneasy feeling about something or someone, but dismissed it? It’s very likely many of us have been there and done that. I have. And so the question is, in general, do you trust your gut?
If not, maybe it’s that you’ve been conditioned to doubt yourself, your judgment, your opinions. Whatever the reason, you might wonder if you can learn to dispel those doubts. I think it is possible. And if you’d like to explore this fascinating road to self-improvement, I’d love to work with you. Please call me for a free consultation at 219-309-3928. I’d be honored to work with you.
Thanks for reading!