Who Cares?

“It is better to keep silent and be thought a fool, than to speak and remove all doubt.” – Variously attributed to Mark Twain, Abraham Lincoln and others

Do you ever have trouble figuring out what to say, or do you wonder whether it’s best to say nothing at all?

Do you have difficulty making certain kinds of decisions?

When you’re faced with a problem, do you freeze up, wondering whether to do something right away, or to wait?

Can you tell the difference between situations in which you have influence, versus situations in which you have little or no influence?

Do you sometimes believe that there’s no difference between the life you’ve lived already and the life you are about to live. Nothing will ever change.

Can you tell whether your decision-making is guided by common sense or by emotion?

Can you tell the difference between situations when you should be concerned about other people’s opinions of you, versus situations in which it makes no sense to fret about that?

A client of mine recently realized that his social anxiety persists partly because he worries about what people think of him. What discovered that, in some cases, other people’s opinions do matter: the opinion of your boss, a judge, a cop, your spouse and kids. However, my client, having an “Aha!” moment, suddenly realized that in social situations, having nothing to do with business, other people’s opinions matter only to them. Consequently, he need not be concerned about such things; not even a little bit. He also realized that the people he meets casually don’t care about him at all. They’re like everyone else: they care about themselves.

My client left the session feeling calm and relaxed. I look forward to hearing about his next sortie into the social world and to discovering what social set would suit his interests and talents.

If you struggle with social anxiety or difficulty making decisions, please feel free to call 219-309-3928. I’d be honored to work with you.

Thanks for reading!