Conflict # 44 – Trust Your Gut
“Things are not always what they appear to be. People are not always who they appear to be.” The conflicts we encounter with others are often a result of one or all of the parties not seeing things… Read More
Conflict # 43 – Just Look at Yourself!
Effective conflict resolution demands a calm demeanor and clear thinking. But stressful feelings get in the way and make it difficult to see oneself accurately. This is a problem. Now, first of all … do you agree that… Read More
Conflict # 42 – Failed Attempts
You try to resolve a conflict, only to fail time after time. You and the other person go round and round, and never get anywhere. It’s the same old story. What is going on with this?! Could it… Read More
Conflict # 41 – The Trouble with ‘Why’
Years ago, I provided counseling to a fifteen year-old boy; call him “Skip”. His parents, “Chad” and “Juanita”, put him into our treatment center to address his anger, depression, bad behavior and poor school work. A few months… Read More
Conflict # 40 – Looking Good
You probably know that having “a short fuse” refers to someone who is quickly angered. Since anger fuels conflict, we might wonder, what fuels anger. The answer? Lots of things. In this case let’s look at the mother… Read More
Conflict # 39 – Carrot or Stick?
Shall we assume you’re interested in improving your conflict management skills? If so, and if you’re honest, you have already concluded that something about your behavior and attitude has to change. Right? Good. Let’s go on, then. Think… Read More
Conflict # 38 – Roadblocks
Kristie and Dustin argue daily. About everything. Money. Child-rearing. Family relations. They fuss and fume, never get anywhere, and can’t figure out why. You know Murphy’s Law. If something can go wrong, it will go wrong. Every conflict… Read More
Conflict # 37 – Fight, Flight, Freeze
When conflict arises do you fight, flee, or freeze up? If you fight, do you … – Lash out verbally – Get physical – Use sarcasm – Plot your revenge – Involve other people as allies – Demand… Read More
Conflict # 36 – Manipulation, part 2
Have you heard of the classic comic movie, “You Can’t Cheat An Honest Man”? The title is actually an old saying, and it’s generally true. Con artists, the ultimate manipulators, succeed by making their victims feel special or… Read More
Conflict # 35 – Name that Conflict
Having led conflict resolution workshops since 2004, one common problem has popped up more often than all the others. That is the failure to identify the conflict in a way that could lead to a solution. As has… Read More
