Trauma Advice
The healing of emotional trauma usually will not occur through conversation and analysis alone. Conversation and analysis can help to describe the problem and its sources. But mere description does not produce healing. Think of your mind, your… Read More
Honesty with Yourself
Being honest with oneself can be hard; the mind is not necessarily designed to pursue truth, when the truth hurts. It is designed to keep one feeling mentally stable. Also, to preserve self-worth, maintain a sense of belonging… Read More
Attention Hogs
The term, “attention hog”, refers to someone who seeks attention inappropriately – too often and too loud – sometimes quietly, but always in ways that sap the energy of others. Consider the following ways to think about these… Read More
THE OBEDIENT PARENT
The “obedient parent” refers to a a parental figure who gives in to the child’s demands to avoid conflict or reduce stress. Here’s what the term often implies: How does the parent yield to the child? Gives in… Read More
Self-Regulation
“Chill out! Get a grip! Snap out of it!” We might hear others say it to us, we might say it to others, or to ourselves. Nearly all of us, at some might or other, might feel stressed… Read More
Texting
Several years ago, long after texting had become the preferred way for some people to exchange words, some genius from some magazine wrote in praise of texting, saying, “At least people are communicating.” No kidding? Texting is communicating?… Read More
Distorted Beliefs
As we grow up, each of us develops a set of beliefs about life, about people and about how the world works. The years go by, we gather more information and experience, and we come to believe our… Read More
A Hole in the Heart
Not everyone is blessed with the love and protection of parents who stay together. Children deprived of that special kind of security will respond in their own unique ways. Some kids raised by a single parent will do… Read More
Learn From Others
“Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it.” – George Santayana “A fool might learn from his own experience, but the wise person learns from the experience of others.” – paraphrased from Otto von Bismarck… Read More
Dump Your Garbage
Suppose your home was filled with huge plastic bags and trash cans overflowing with garbage that had been building up throughout your life. Thinking about it now, you can imagine the stench. But if you were in that… Read More
